A Tin of Bon Bons

Some time, somehow in the years after Mémére's death this lovely tin came into my posession.

I do not know its provenance. I believe it once held bonbons, and quite probably came from Paris for one of her grandsons was living there when I was a child and he was generous and frequent with his gifts.

How Mémére loved pretty gifts from Paris!

Once the candy was gone, she used the tin to store hairpins. At night I would watch her seated at her dressing table, combing waste-length white hair. In the morning, she would pin it up again. I marveled at this routine.

The tin has been mine since I was in high school. I have kept it with me always, storing photographs in it and admiring its pattern. It smelled of talc and lavender and that tinny odor these containers acquire over time.

Mémére’s room smelled of lavender. Outside her window, there were lilac bushes and on breezy days in May, they, too, would perfume the tidy little blue-and-white room.

The pattern on Mémére's tin said "French" to me. In the flowered design were the colors she wore: Black, and violet and periwinkle, often with a touch of yellow. Together with hundreds of old photographs of women in dark dresses with lace colors and men with dark eyebrows and moustaches, the pattern in the tin formed my idea of what was French and what was not.

Of course, times have changed. Québec and France have changed. But I still treasure this little tin and the images and memories it continues to evoke.

Today, I stuck my nose into the tin. There was the faintest scent of lavender.

I have learned to accept and appreciate these things.

Update: I have since stumbled across this tin in antique shops. I am still not sure what it really held. I still treasure it.

Comments

Anonymous said…
I was fortunate enough to know my great grandmother, who I called Memere. On one of my visits to see her, she gave me a monkey stuffed animal which I promptly named Monkey Meme and still love.
Unknown said…
Memre was my great grandmother, too; I neglected to mention that, She lived way into her 90s and never once lost her dignity. She looked lovely, even at 95.

Thank you, Brilynn!
Katie said…
The smell of lavendar - it reminds me of my mother's dresser drawers - she always has bars of lavendar soap in them.
Unknown said…
Those llittle touches satisfy another appetite, I think.
Ah, I was hoping you'd still have bon bons in that lovely tin! It's so much fun to see all of the wonderful objects you've inherited from your family. You're quite lucky to have them.
Unknown said…
I was hoping to make something bon bon-ish today, but. . .

Maybe tomorrow.
Anonymous said…
Mimi, what a beautiful post!

The tin is so lovely, I wish I had one like it!
Unknown said…
It's been well-used, Patricia. Scuffed in places, but it's been everywhere with me.
Anonymous said…
I had a gramma just like yours...long white hair and the hair pins, too, hers were stored in a porcelain dresser jar...also in my 10 or so years of buying and selling vintage collectibles and antiques, I once sold a tin such as this at a flea market...it struck a chord in my heart, even though I sold it.
Unknown said…
Really! Same pattern? When I was a kid, this said PARIS to me. Maybe it was not from Paris, but I liked to thnk it was.

How wonderful that we can share this stuff — even though we've never met — I love the Internet.
Anonymous said…
What a wonderful sentiment and lovely post! I have a wooden box my great grandmother gave me to hold my paper dolls. Today it holds cards from loved ones but when I open it I can see her living room and the rag rug I would play on.
Farmgirl Cyn said…
How very blessed you are, Mimi, to have such a treasure that once belonged to your memere! All I have from mine is a hand written recipe for meat pies, but I DO have my memories!
Anonymous said…
Is it just me or are food people just more in tune with their senses in general? A beautiful post, Mimi. There are so many wonderful things out there in the world if we we simply pay attention.
Jann said…
Many of the simple things in like do give us so much pleasure.......
Jann said…
that should read: "in life"-it's late!
Anonymous said…
Same pattern~~

Grandma Bauer 1898-1987
Unknown said…
Bread Chick and Cyn, it's the memories that count. The items — the material culture — just shows us. What counts is in the heart and the memory. Still, we should treasure these things.

Terry B, I think food people are more in tune. I think one creative endeavor feeds (no pun intended) another and by the same token I think appreciation for sensory experiences extends beyond taste. (Which reminds me, I am reading a biography of Julia Child by Noel Fitch Riley — Julia was quite a lusty lady!)

As I always say, Jan, appreciate the simple things and you will always be happy.
Anonymous said…
It is a lovely tin, made more lovely by all those memories. There are things that I can't bring myself to get rid of (none as pretty or useful as your tin) just because of the memories they bring forth; they're like a connection to a person or a specific time in my past.
Unknown said…
I always saw this little tin as a symbol of something, too, Julie; I guess it was a teenage fantasy of French, or something.

I'll keep it forever.
You are so right Mimi. It isn't about the thing but the memory it evokes. If I don't use something because it might break, I don't elicit the memory and I can't create a memory.
That's why I don't have much problem when something breaks. The pain of missing something is part of the process.
It's also why there are things that have no value (maybe are really junk or clutter) and there is no possibility to throw them out because they ground and connect us.
Beautiful post.
Unknown said…
gtjgtjWow, City Farmer, that is really neat. A further connection made possible by technology.

Tanna, I have taken a Velveteen Rabbit approach to things and recently, I have enjoyed restoring chips and cracks and things. I no longer worry about imperfections. It is liberating!
Anonymous said…
mimi, you bring me what I lack, tokens of familial love. Thank you!
Unknown said…
There is more to come, F2B.
Anonymous said…
It's amazing how these simple treasures, with no monetary value, mean the world to us.
I have many from my mother and my aunt and many times just touching them brings their spirit close.
I can see why this tin represented "French" to you. It's just lovely and the colors remind me of Provence.
Unknown said…
I thought so, too, Terri. It is altogether possible the tin and its contents were not French at all. But to me, they were.
Anonymous said…
Mimi, I have been looking around your blog some more, and it is truly lovely. The pictures, the recipes, all the stories of family and things that could seem so small but yet are really so important. I'm looking forward to trying some of your recipes, and to reading more of your stories. Thanks again for getting in "blog touch" with me. I'm glad that introduced me to your blog!
Unknown said…
Thank you, Laura! I am glad I read your book and I intend to feature it here sometime this week. I just finished it last night — the bride and the bathroom scene was too much.

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